The Church welcomes everyone. Christ loves everyone in His Sacred Heart. He died on the Cross for everyone, so that everyone can get to heaven.
That said, the Lord has clearly indicated in the gospel that the Church will encounter conflicts. Situations will arise in which we have to shake the dust from our feet and move on.
Of course, love must always motivate us, even when we shake the dust off.
I think we can safely propose that genuine love moves us to affirm two principles that bring us into profound conflict with many of our contemporaries.
We can stand with patience and peace on these two principles. Their truth can be established by arguments from every possible rational point-of-view. We would be fools if we ever thought that these principles could “change.” They can’t change. So we stand on them and move into the future with confidence.
Our contemporaries do not openly deny these principles, so much as they obliquely hold them against us as being objectionable.
The two principles I have in mind are:
1. From the moment of conception in his her her mother’s womb, every human being has the right to life. We must oppose–any good person must oppose every act that so much as runs the risk of killing an innocent and defenseless unborn human being.
2. We love everybody, including people who feel sexual attraction to members of their same sex. Out of love, we say to gay people: God wants soemthing better for you. Whatever you do, do not commit sodomy.
Let’s stand on these principles with patience and peace through whatever difficulties we may have to face. Political fads come and go. True love rests on the rock of truth.
…On the subject of bare-knuckled political confrontation, we should note that the following statement has been carefully and systematically debunked by a study released last month.
Not a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents.
This assertion appears in the 2005 American Psychological Association Brief on “Lesbian and Gay Parenting.” But the assertion cannot be supported scientifically. The studies to which the APA refers do not actually prove the thesis.
Fact is, the social and behavioral sciences cannot penetrate this problem. The problem is fundamentally moral.
The argument we often confront goes like this: “Marriage Equality” must be granted, because the Golden Rule demands it.
BUT: The Golden Rule does not bind me to do something impossible. I should treat others as I would have them treat me, sure enough. But I need not promise my enfeebled great uncle in a nursing home that I will play tennis with him, even though I like it when people play tennis with me. I need not cook a shark steak for one of my parishioners (because I do not know how to cook), even though I would be glad to eat one prepared for me.
Should I be fair with everyone? Of course. Does fairness demand that I say a man can marry a man? No. Because it is physically impossible. Marrying means making babies (or at least trying to.)
Two men cannot make a baby. Two women cannot make a baby. No baby has ever been born who did not have a mother and a father.
What kind of “study” can demonstrate that a child estranged by scientific technique from his or her true parents “does just as well as anyone else?” Wouldn’t such a study have to follow the child for his or her entire life and reach into his or her deepest thoughts?
The friends I have who were adopted as infants have “done fine.” But do they long in some way for a true home they never had? They do.
An enormous gulf separates two scenarios:
1. The natural parents of a child cannot or will not serve. Others generously offer to help.
2. “I will have a child of my own one way or the other!”
Adoptions will always involve pain. Any decent person would acknowledge that the party whose pain should be minimized is the child. Any assertion by a homosexual that he or she has a “right” to a child can only interfere with a proper judgment about minimizing an adopted child’s pain. No one who really cares about the well-being of the children who need an adoptive home could ever insist on having a “right” to be recognized as a possible parent.
…Some older posts on this subject:
You-Can’t-Do-It-ville (contains multiple links to other posts)
…Also, just in case you are wondering, “What does Father say about the fact that a German court has outlawed infant circumcision (!)?”