Let’s take a break and talk some politics. Just read the following interesting statement:
There are some arguments no reasonable person makes anymore. A person arguing that consensual gay sex is intrinsically immoral and perverse has disqualified themselves from reasonable debate. In mainstream society this is a settled question, and there’s no longer any need to answer such arguments anymore (except perhaps with a raised finger). –Barry Deutsch [Click HERE for the entire essay.]
In many circles, he’s right–that is, that this is considered a closed question.
…People with delicate sensibilities generally do not choose to study the question of what precisely distinguishes marriage as marriage.
Is it love? No. Love widely obtains between unmarried people, too—friends, relatives, etc.
Stable commitment? No. Stable commitment, too, obtains in many other relationships as well.
Legally binding contracts exist to ensure stable relationships. People commit to stable relationships in business, recreation, and other areas of social life. My credit-card company made a lifetime commitment to me over twenty years ago: “No membership fee for life.”
Discrete and modest people don’t like to think about the essence of marriage too much because: What actually does distinguish marriage as the stable commitment of love which it uniquely is…namely, S-E-X.
Marriage = exclusive lifetime commitment to having sex together.
No need to blush, really. Christ made this very thing a sign of heaven. But we do blush, because: Holy as it could have been in Eden, sex for fallen man prowls as a great monster that never sleeps.
Now, my point. A great temptation lies at hand, namely to greet the “same-sex marriage” battle cry with arguments that will never fully ring true, arguments that can easily be answered and nullified.
“For 3,000 years of recorded human history, marriage has been an institution between a man and a woman!” True enough.
But do these years of history present a flattering picture of the institution? Not always. And do they bind a particular young person of this generation to accept the tradition without question? No.
“Gay marriage demeans the institution! It’s bad for children!”
More so than divorce? More than infidelity, pornography, abandonment, or abuse?
The sacrament of Holy Matrimony shines with divine glory. The dappled history of human marriage sparkles with a lot of this beauty. But, upon inspection, it also offends the eye, a complicated mess. Holding up a placard with a picture of the Cleavers on it does not make a convincing argument against same-sex marriage.
Now, a reasonable, calm person with designs on living an admirable life can produce a pretty long list of sexual deeds that should never be done. It all comes down to this: God made making babies beautiful. Opening that particular door for any other purpose…well, the ugly selfishness of it depletes the soul of vigor.
The virtue of chastity perceives this, lives from it–thrives in this truth. A good life is a chaste life. Un-chastity causes pathetic slavery, dims the mind, lowers the horizons.
…For two men or two women to live together in the same house until death–this does not appear on any reputable list of sins. If someone wants to name a non-blood relation as an heir, or as a financial beneficiary of any kind—not a sin. We could even imagine circumstances in which two men or two women might take into their home a child whose parents could not care for him/her.
In other words, many of the trappings of “gay marriage” sit right alongside the trappings of mainstream married family life–as perfectly un-objectionable arrangements of love and friendship. Against true love and friendship there can never be a just law.
Which is why we have no choice but patiently and discreetly to risk the raised middle finger.
Marriage is beautiful, difficult, and checkered. Sex is holy and altogether complicated. Sodomy is a grave sin.
If an old friend invited me to his or her “gay wedding,” I could only in good conscience decline on these grounds: You are publicly declaring that you will commit sodomy. Of that I cannot approve.